How Mad Can She Get?

What a great Valentines Day morning!  MAC has alto sectionals this morning, so we got up an hour early and then I gave her the small gift that I had gotten her (an M&M filled fan).  She seemed to like it and I hate to say the snack bag is now empty.

The decision to try to help her focus at school was to take the drawing journal and the manga away from her.  She was ok with it yesterday, but today it made me a "horrible Mom".  I don't understand why she doesn' t realize that if she did what she was supposed to do she would get everything back!

When I dropped her off at the school she refused to say anything to me.  It will be interesting to see how this afternoon goes.  I do wonder how angry she can get at me...oh, the joys of motherhood!

How do I help?

It has been a disappointing few days.  On Tuesday I received a call from the school, MAC was having an issue.  They had been pleased that she had used her emergency pass to get out of class but when it was time to go back to class she started to be unpleasant.  After an hour of this behavior the school called to say that they felt she should go home.

We had a short conference with the Vice-Principal, guidance counselor and the school psychologist.    None of us could get her to tell us what the problem was.  While at the school she was uncommunicative and hostile, by the time we got home she was contrite and very self-depreciating.  I just don’t understand how her mind works.

I got an e-mail from her math teacher Wednesday.  She says that MAC doesn’t even try, when she was cleaning the classroom up she found all of MACs notes still on her desk and was asking for any helpful tips I might have.  After all these years and all the books I’ve read I just don’t have any tricks/tips that we’ve tried that really work for any length of time.  How do you help someone who feels they don’t need help?

Let's Try....

After having to call the school to get a copy of her current report card I was surprised that she passed most of her classes.  It wasn't pretty and she will never get into college with the grades she received but I am trying to be hopeful.  She did not pass two core subjects and that has me worried.

She has been behaving well and the call from the school that came in on Friday was one that praised her for leaving a situation before it got out of hand.

She and I seem to have come to a shaky truce, I only harp on the items that must be done and she only yells that she hates me when she needs a break.

What Now?

The third quarter has begun at CMS.  We had meetings with the teachers, we have spoken with the doctors, and we have worked with her yet MAC is still in her own little world and although she says she understands what she needs to do I continue to get e-mails from teachers saying that she isn't turning in homework and not paying attention in class.

I am not sure what to do now.  I have been trying to give her freedom to make her own decisions but am now in the position of having to worry about her truly failing this school year.